'Are We Dating the Same Guy?' Facebook group goes viral as women expose men's red flags

Clarence Ford speaks to Barbara Friedman about trending online stories. Skip to 2.58 for this one.

Have you heard of 'Are We Dating the Same Guy?', the 'very popular' Facebook page? 

Friedman says social media is buzzing with opinions about the group. 

With over 80,000 members, the page for women by women, exposes men with questionable dating habits as a tale of precaution for others who may encounter the same guy, or men with similar dating flaws.

It's a regular 'name and shame' situation: some posts reveal the men's identity, personal details,  images, and a note explaining the woman's experience.

The page serves different functions, from finalising divorces, outing philandering men, to those with nefarious intentions.

But some of the men accused of the reddest red-flag behaviours, are lashing back with law suits.

Nikko D'Ambrosio, 33, has filed a case in the US after the Facebook group revealed his alleged bad behaviour. 

Stewart Lucas Murray from Santa Monica, file his defamation law suit against more than 50 women who were discussing him on 'Are We Dating the Same Guy?'.

In both instances, Friedman says, the judge threw out the cases.

"I have not heard of men who have sued women from these groups who have succeeded."

- Barbara Friedman, Barb's Wire - CapeTalk

Friedman adds that there are two sides to the issue. Is the person posting the warning asking: "how personal and selfish is the justice you're looking for?"

Friedman says most women posting on the group complain about being ghosted after a date or two.

"I do think that when you go on a date with someone and they're not for you, you're not obliged to give them a whole thesis. But you should just say: 'Lovely to have met you. I don't think it's going to work out for us, all the best'."

- Barbara Friedman, Barb's Wire - CapeTalk

However, Friedman says, if you choose to add your dating experience to an online group similar to this, think before you post. 

"Be careful what you post, it's no different from anything else you post. The statements need to be true, and if it affects someone's reputation in a damaging way, there are going to be consequences - you could be sued and money could be involved."

- Barbara Friedman, Barb's Wire - CapeTalk

Friedman hopes men in the dating streets learn accountability from the women spilling their tea.

"Let's not be unfair, but men need to realise that in this day and age there's a chance that you'll be outed. So maybe think about how you behave. It shouldn't just be about the social media aspect and whether it ends up online, but it should really be about us all evolving as humans."

- Barbara Friedman, Barb's Wire - CapeTalk

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