LISTEN: How to navigate gaps in affection in your relationship

Clement Manyathela speaks with Tracy Ziman Jacobs, an intimacy and relationship coach.

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Affection is a key part of a healthy relationship and can be expressed in many ways.

For your relationship to thrive you need to understand how your partner gives and receives affection.

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While some people give affection easily, others find it difficult.

According to Jacobs, if a person grew up in a cold home, they may withhold affection from their partner because it feels foreign or unnatural.

“It makes it very difficult to match your partner where you are at.”

- Tracy Ziman Jacobs, Intimacy and relationship coach

In addition to this, if a person has had a traumatic experience, they may feel overwhelmed by physical affection.

Jacobs says both parties must be empathetic, open, and curious to bridge a gap in affection levels.

“Through asking the right questions you can find out how [your partner] shows love.”

- Tracy Ziman Jacobs, Intimacy and relationship coach

She adds that physical affection needs to be introduced slowly and consensually in a way both people are comfortable with.

Affection does not always have to be expressed with physical touch, as long as both partners feel they are well connected and there is a safe space between them.

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