Sara-Jayne Makwala King9 May 2025 | 13:56

Navigating a relationship with a narcissist: What you need to know

Recognising narcisisstic traits in your partner can help you understand the impact and find ways to address it.

Navigating a relationship with a narcissist: What you need to know

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While we all have moments of self-centredness, a consistent pattern of narcissistic behaviour - like arrogance, a constant need for praise, and low empathy - can seriously hurt the bond between partners.

Healthy relationships thrive on mutual respect, care, and understanding... but when imbalance takes over, it often leads to tension, conflict, and feelings of hurt.

Being in a relationship with a narcissist can be confusing and emotionally draining.

Do you notice your partner consistently putting themselves first, showing little empathy for your feelings, or trying to isolate you from loved ones? 

Could it be that your partner is a narcissist?

"It's a type of behaviour that is marked as an inflation of one's self importance. There's a deep need of admiration from others, and often a lack of empathy for others."
- Tracy Ziman Jacobs, Intimacy and Relationship Coach

Jacobs explains that in the context of a romantic relationship, narcissists often control their partners through manipulation, charm and emotional abuse.

"This is very toxic, and the abused one really starts to lose a sense of identity in this relationship."
- Tracy Ziman Jacobs, Intimacy and Relationship Coach
"They lose their self-esteem and they don't know which way is up anymore."
- Tracy Ziman Jacobs, Intimacy and Relationship Coach