Celibacy goes beyond physical touch, here’s why

Clement Manyathela speaks to sex educator, Nu Davidson about the practice of celibacy. 

Listen below.

Celibacy is the abstinence of any sexual behaviours or contacts, however, you can define the limitations.

You decide what is acceptable, and what is not, as well as how long you would like to remain celibate.

“It can be short, medium or long term. It is really about finding the person that you are willing to have that engagement with and who is really worth it.”

Nu Davidson, sex educator

People abstain from sex for several reasons such as religion, personal growth, or perhaps even relationship burnout. 

It can be practiced by single people, as well as those in a relationship.

“Intimacy is so much more than just physical touch… but when you look at it, it is truly being seen, into-me-you-see.”

Nu Davidson, sex educator

With this in mind, remember communication is key - communicating your boundaries to people you are dating.

Davidson recommends being open, honest, and upfront.

“Withholding information benefits who?...   Why not say and have the conversation earlier, why not even ask about it? You are getting curious about it instead of just slamming it down as a no-go.”

Nu Davidson, sex educator

“You don’t really want to invest in the whole relationship then journey six months down the line and they are wondering why they are constantly being rejected physically. It can build insecurities and issues, so rather just be upfront about what your boundaries are. It’s a negotiation.”

Nu Davidson, sex educator