Parallel parenting explained: A child-centred approach to co-parenting

Navigating the complexities of co-parenting can be an overwhelming job, especially when relationships are strained.

The makes parallel parenting, a strategy that prioritises the children’s needs above all else, important, said family therapist, Ayanda Tetyana.

She explained that parallel parenting can help families navigate high-conflict situations and better address boundaries and issues.

She emphasised that it is not about being in a relationship with your co-parent, but rather about creating a system that ensures that the child’s needs are met.

“When we’re talking parallel parent, we are talking about getting to a point where you understand that, despite our differences, despite our disappointments, let’s prioritise the child.”

This approach includes creating a parenting plan that outlines details such as holiday arrangements, school schedules, and medical decisions, which will be particularly important during high-conflict situations.

While parallel parenting can be challenging, Taetyana encourages written communication, such as email or messaging apps, to minimise conflict and ensure that both parents are on the same page.

She reminds parents that, at the end of the day, it is for the sake of your child.

"The emotional intelligence required for the parent, who is in this situation, is very important so that they can say, this is about the child.”

To listen to Tetyana in conversation with 702’s Relebogile Mabotja, click the audio player below: